Living alone as a solo ager offers independence, privacy, and freedom, but it also comes with unique safety considerations. One of the most important steps you can take to protect yourself while living alone is to plan before an emergency happens. A simple buddy system can provide peace of mind and an extra layer of safety without sacrificing your independence.

Why a Buddy System Matters

When you live alone, there may be no one who notices right away if something goes wrong. A fall, sudden illness, or even a minor emergency can quickly become serious if help is delayed. A buddy system ensures that someone will notice if you don’t check in and will know what to do next.

This isn’t about expecting problems. It’s about being prepared, just as you would be prepared with smoke detectors or a first-aid kit.

How to Set Up a Buddy System

 A buddy system can be simple and flexible. The key is consistency and clarity.

Here’s how to get started:

• Choose a reliable buddy. This could be a friend, neighbor, relative, or fellow solo ager.
• Set a specific schedule. Agree to call or text each other on a certain day and time each week (or more often if you prefer).
• Decide what happens if there’s no response.
  • First step: Repeat the call or text one or two more times.
  • Second step: Take agreed-upon action, such as stopping by for a quick safety check.
  • Third step (if needed): Contact local police or emergency services to request a wellness check.
• Write it down. Both people should clearly understand the plan so there’s no hesitation if action is needed.

The most important part is putting this system in place before you ever need it.

Pair Your Buddy System with Home Safety Awareness

A buddy system works best when combined with a safe living environment. The National Institute on Aging offers a helpful Home Safety Checklist that encourages solo agers to regularly review common household risks, such as tripping hazards, poor lighting, or hard-to-reach emergency supplies.

Using a checklist like this can help you:

• Identify potential safety issues room by room
• Make small, practical changes that reduce risk
• Feel more confident and secure in your home

When your home is safer and someone is checking in on you, you’ve created a strong foundation for aging safely and independently.

Independence With a Safety Net

 Many solo agers worry that planning for emergencies means giving up independence. A buddy system allows you to continue living life on your own terms, knowing that someone will notice if you need help. It’s a small step that can make a big difference.

If you live alone, consider reaching out to someone you trust this week and starting the conversation. Your future self will thank you.

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